Let Me Tell You This About That

Winter Blues to Spring Hues; seeing the blue sky and green grass

• Jessica Bollinger • Season 1 • Episode 19

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In this episode of "Let Me Tell You This About That," host s Delbert and Hess engage in a heartwarming conversation about embracing the beauty in everyday life and finding purpose with whatever season in life we are in. Broadcasting live from Kentucky, they share personal anecdotes on what helps them through. With reflections on their 67 years of experiences, they discuss the importance of cultivating wisdom, maintaining strong relationships, and spreading positivity. The episode also highlights their upcoming events and how small actions, like planting seeds or enjoying a dance concert, can uplift the spirit. Delbert and Hess remind us all to live fully, be brave, and embrace the present moment, sending out vibes of blue skies and green grass to their listeners.

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One of her mission's is for all of our lights to shine--when we see each other and allow ourself to be seen--and we can say to the person in front of us, There You Are! the world will be an amazing place!

Delbert is a realtor in Louisville, KY, and you can find her at Kentucky Select Properties

Her philanthropic work to continue her sister Carole and niece Meghan is Carole's Kitchen. Blessings in a Backpack helps feed the many hungry students in our schools. The instagram account is: https://www.instagram.com/caroleskitchen.nonprofit?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==





Hess:

This is Hess with Let Me Tell You This About That.

Delbert:

morning. This is Delbert. Again, live from the green couch looking out my window. it is a beautiful day in Kentucky, right?

Hess:

I've got blue skies here, Delbert. I'm 60 miles east of Louisville. Delbert's on the green couch in St. Matthews in Louisville, Kentucky. And I'm in Lexington, Kentucky on a 92 acre farm and that is about 60 miles. East of Delbert, and I've got blue skies also,

Delbert:

And it's a beautiful drive to the farm. never far away.

Hess:

I'm looking at remember you all last week. I talked about seeing mud and then I said the grass has got a green hue to it. And then it was so amazing by just pointing that out to my brain. That's all I saw was the green hue in the grass. And yes, there is green hue in the grass, even more today. There's some patches of snow because we got some snow this past week here. But I'm seeing some green hues. It stuck with me, Delbert. It stuck with me.

Delbert:

good. I was going to say it's still snowed at the beginning of this week and it's icy, but today it's going to be in the mid to upper forties. The sun's out. I I was telling Hess, I shook the ice off. I was like, it doesn't matter. And my car did the same thing. My car looks like that emoji, the little frozen face emoji. And I could not get all the ice off the front. It looked like it had a, like a little beard of ice and snow. And I couldn't get it off. And finally the other day when I was driving, it just broke off, like there we go. We've shake it, literally and figuratively, I shook off all the ice and I'm just in this place where I'm gonna do my open house today and give out seeds to people as a little takeaway. seeds. I'm ready for spring. I'm not letting anything hold me down.

Hess:

Yeah, and something else different that you were doing besides giving out seeds at the open house? What did you say?

Delbert:

Oh, yeah, I'm just shaking it up. I was trying to think of new ideas and I had a meeting with our marketing team and I was like, I just want to do something different, just have a little experience to get people out of the winter, and I'm like I'm Catholic. Why don't I do a bingo card with all the great things in the house? And I've got stickers for people to put on as they find things and, see things. Doing the same thing that you and I were talking about with our color walk and of noticing colors. And as people go through the open house today they're going to play bingo. So I think that'll be fun.

Hess:

Cool. Cool. Y'all, as Podsters, I'm, we have known each other for 60 years. And I, Delbert just turned 67. No? 67?

Delbert:

Yeah.

Hess:

67. Yeah, I'll be 67. You're 67 a couple months, a few months before me. My birthday is in April and we're about to turn 67. And when we met with our group, excuse me, when we met with our group a year ago, January, part of it was like we're going into our later stages of life. What are we going to do with our life? That was the theme. What are we going to do with our lives to contribute to see how We can give back or what else do we want to do with our lives? That was what the theme was for our Barkley village retreat that we had with our little group. And I'm just been, I've just been contemplating that because I was just away with a group of friends down on Blas is so beautiful, big wide beach. You could have your dog on the beach. Tyler loved it. My soul dog. It was just fun being around the this. These other ladies who are also in this part of life that I'm in of what we want to do and how we want to do it different. And, and it's so fun to see people being brave about what they can do To be, to do different. Delbert, you were saying you, you would never want to go or be anywhere else. You got the Darling Society that lives there by you, and you still contribute big time as a grandmother, picking up and driving carpool, and you're not too far away from your other daughter that's in Nashville. So you'd never pick up and move. You've got your work there. You've got your,

Delbert:

yeah, Carole's kitchen is here. The service I do through that. And no, I, and I think people, in this stage of your life, especially abilities. And resources are all different, right? I think it's important to this is where I am. This is what I can do focus on what you can do. I can't move anywhere. But so much that I can do here.

Hess:

Yeah and looking at it in a new and different way. That's one thing I like about travel. When I come back, it makes me a tourist in my own space. What all is there to do or see? What, is there a trail around here that I could go hike? And I found one, 30 minutes away, and it was a beautiful little trail. I felt like I was in the middle of the wilderness. It, it brings a new perspective to my home place. And I do have a home place. I've 92 acres and I've got this life a lifestyle here on the farm. I have my licensed clinical social work practice in my office here in the back of the house, people drive here too. And we, we have this place with these beautiful people that work here that, that keep their horse here. And it's I could never pick this up and move this anywhere else.

Delbert:

right, but you are so lucky because at this phase in your life, you've got, people that help you at the barn. have great barn staff, like we've talked about, and you have the ability to get up and go sometimes when you've got everything covered. Which Lovely.

Hess:

true.

Delbert:

I

Hess:

And

Delbert:

you.

Hess:

you were talking about I'll tell you tonight what's going on for me today is I got trained in the Brene Brown work and I, that's what I presented last year to you all Delbert at the Barkley village. We started doing this for the university students here at the farm. And so we do it once a month and tonight we're feeding them a meal and I'm presenting some Brene Brown work that can just give them information to help them in their lives. And those are the little seeds, the little wildflower seeds, I guess I can give out today. Like you're giving out at your open house. And that's just beautiful how, whatever I know I can spread it.

Delbert:

Exactly. Exactly. Little seeds of wisdom and little, hopeful, whatever it is, whether it's a, planting something physically in the ground or planting it in your mind. It's still so beautiful and hopeful, and that's what I love. Springtime. I love summer. They're my favorites. I'm thinking about, we're getting close to Lent and then that anticipation during Lent about, When Easter comes, when springtime comes, gives us something to look forward to springtime and the beautiful new life that comes. And it just invigorates your, for me, it invigorates my mind and my spirit just for things to start blooming and the days to get warmer.

Hess:

And we used, we got it, we got more ice and snow this week here in Kentucky. I didn't experience that down there at the Cape San Blas. But you were able to fortify and to what helped you during the cold snap again this week, Delbert? Yeah.

Delbert:

decided that I was over it. Like, I'm no longer a bear in this cave. I'm coming out. I don't care. And so I just started by just taking a walk in the cold air. I was like, I am not afraid of you cold air. And then and then I just, naturally things start to change. I got busier at work worked out a couple closings, sold a house this week, and I got to go to a dance concert, one of my darling schools, and that was very uplifting. And I love dance, and it was this beautiful, it had every style of dance in it. It was just beautiful. I can't tell you how it lifted my soul up. But The other thing is I did not let it stop me from showing houses and this one little client of mine. And we're always going to laugh about this for the rest of our lives. We went to most of the snow and ice is melted. Just like my little car's beard that I couldn't crack off. It's gone. But this house that client and I went to look at is face in the woods. And and the people it's vacant. So the people never did shovel their walk or their steps. And it was really up this huge incline and it looked like it was just covered with snow, but I said, she was pregnant and has a four year old. I said, let's just hold on. It looks like it's just snow, but if it's too icy, let's not let go, let's just prepare, so we get to the top, this front porch landing is like an ice skating rink. And if somebody had filmed us, we were like a comedy routine. I was holding on to the door and then I grabbed the little four year old's arm and brought her inside and then my sweet little client, she's holding on to all the rails and I'm holding on to her and we're like, we're not going out that way. We're not, but we braved it and we conquered that stage. staircase. It's just like a lot of little victories and little uplifts for me this week. We went out the basement door I called the agent. I'm like, we like it, but we're not coming back until you saw those stairs off. But just little things like that this week I did to perk me up. And then I got really excited about my open house bingo and giving out flower seeds and stickers. And also have, oh, bless you, my

Hess:

Thank you.

Delbert:

My cousin Allison, who helps me a lot with Carole's Kitchen we're doing a new website and she called me and said she might have a new school and, if we do bring it on and start helping them through Carole's Kitchen with a food program, she wants to do all the steps with me and learn how I do it. So that just made me feel so good. And I was telling Hess before we got on that my niece, Lizzie, she is a senior in college and she came home just to have a family meeting about Carole's kitchen. She wants to take over the helm when I'm retired or when I croak or whatever. And I have discovered this deep spiritual connection my niece that I have with my aunt Katie. And so these are all just the little things.

Hess:

So the way your aunt Katie, you're so close. She mentored you and you're so close to aunt Katie. You're the aunt Katie you said to your niece.

Delbert:

know. And so Aunt Katie and I call each other spiritual sisters. And we mean that, I as time goes on, I noticed that I have this same spiritual connection with my own niece. And yeah so that's wonderful. Cherish my relationship with my brother's sister. They my brother and sister in law had them later in life and my kids were out of the nest and I got to kind of practice being a grandparent with them. And just having all these great adventures. Jay said, now you were always our first choices babysitter, but. The house was just trashed when we came home, like a, some kind of frat party with sprinkles, like we were baking fairy cupcakes out of my fairy cookbook and, and then we'd get done with that. I'd say maybe we better clean the kitchen up this time. And they'd say no, we're going to do dance party too, and so we'd go do that. And then we'd all fall asleep downstairs in the den. And they would come home and I'd be like, oh, shoot. I didn't clean the kitchen again, but they said you were the messiest babysitter, but you were the best. So I just got to have this great gift of, on being a grandparent. With them, they were so little when my kids were grown. And I just have nurtured that like a beautiful flower in a pot. I've nurtured that. That's

Hess:

to give back. Yeah I want to share podsters that when we were doing this presentation last year to Berkeley village, my friend Cynthia, that was helping me do this. She gave a presentation about wisdom. What is it? And if. And it doesn't matter what age you are, you've got some, you've got wisdom. You don't have to be 67 years old to have wisdom, but it's about already having some knowledge about life. It's about knowing what the facts are. And then it's about understanding the the context. So there's an understanding. There's also awareness of what our values and priorities are. And then the ability to recognize and manage uncertainty. Because that, as we've seen over 67 years, there's always uncertainty, but what we can feel secure about goes back to what we talked about a few weeks ago, that spire that we, I do have, and that's an acronym S P I R E that I do have a strong spiritual basis of. Of how I feel about what life is and where I am in the context of the galaxies in the a hundred billion universes. There's that's the S the most spiritual side that we're all connected. The P my physical self, how, even though I'm 67, I take good vitamins and exercise and do burn bootcamp and play pickleball and try to take care of myself physically, intellectually. Being a curious learner always, what else do I have to learn here is so rejuvenating to have that intellect. And then the R is relationships. What have I done to make my relationships good? The people around me, my family, my chosen family, my my loved ones, my relatives, the people that I walk past on the sidewalk, those relationships, the people that I work with. And then E. Emotions being able to feel and acknowledge whatever emotion I'm feeling and be able to act from there. Spire helps me in the uncertainty of life and it also can make me help spread whatever wisdom I might have or talk to people or we we don't know what we don't know, so what I know I like to share because somebody else might not know it. Sigh.

Delbert:

beautiful. And we talked about SPIRE last time and I was like, boy that's a really important acronym and I think we should revisit it, and so glad that you did has, because all those ways that we take care of ourself. So important to having a good, healthy, happy life being fully alive wherever we are,

Hess:

Help you to be brave and have the courage to do things that you've never done before

Delbert:

right?

Hess:

I'm going to do this. Even if it's something little, you're not climbing a mountain. You're not climbing Mount Everest with this new thing you're going to do at your open house today, but you're doing something different. You're changing it up.

Delbert:

Yeah. Even, yeah. You're not climbing Mount Everest. Maybe you're just going outside and braving the cold. you're just taking an old broom to your car. If it's still there. Frozen down deep in the tundra, whatever it is get out there it a great day and live your life To its fullest.

Hess:

People are watching you, and maybe you'll be an inspiration to somebody.

Delbert:

You don't even know it when you're messing

Hess:

I don't know.

Delbert:

kitchen up if somebody's watching I'll tell you saw him at my oldest daughter saw how much fun I was having with Jay's kids and She bought me that fairy cookbook And I still have it in my kitchen. And then when my grandkids were little, then I had all that practice and I'd say, now, what Lizzie and Addie and I would cook together, you know? And they let, oh, it was always a big mess, but they loved it and I still have that. So just little bitty things. You could bake a cupcake today. You could go ahead and plant a ceiling, seedling in an egg carton Get you a little egg carton, do get you some little seeds to plant, get ready, put them in a window.

Hess:

Yeah, now is the time I think you're supposed to be thinking about planting your little tomato plants that you're going to put out in the garden if you grow your owN. Yeah, so it might not be a beautiful blue sky right where you are. But just you might be able to catch part of our blue sky. We're looking at right now.

Delbert:

We're sending you blue sky vibes out there.

Hess:

Yeah, so yeah, just being in our the last quarter of our life, Delbert, if we're like on the 60 yard line, how do I want the next 40 yards to be, or from the 70 yard line? I guess I'm on the, I'll say 60 yard line. How do I want the rest of the last quarter to be?

Delbert:

more yards for heaven's sakes. Yes.

Hess:

yeah, I mean there's 10 yards until you reach the goalpost after you cross the goal line, but yeah What do I want to do? Don't stop. Where can I see the Sun? Where can I make this Sun?

Delbert:

You know what Einstein said?

Hess:

What do you say?

Delbert:

Your imagination is a preview of life's coming attractions. Imagine where you want to go. Imagine what you want to do. Manifest it, vibrate it into being.

Hess:

Yeah. Something that always excites me, Delbert, is hearing somebody talk about something that they're love, that they love and they're crazy about. And I can get as much feeling of satisfaction as if I was doing that myself. Like I could listen to somebody talk about bowling and what their strategy is and how they got good at it. I could just totally dive into that and feel it myself in my body. Yeah. Totally.

Delbert:

You are a very good listener. That is true. And you do get excited for other people. is the gift. That is a gift.

Hess:

I think everybody could do that too. I don't see that it's anything special. I have that. I do.

Delbert:

No, I think that is a gift really. Cause some people don't listen and some people can get envious even of just the littlest thing. You just never know people can throw rocks at shiny things. And if you're getting all shined up about it, not everyone, but. Some people can. So I do think it's a gift to be a good listener and to be excited for everybody. Because guess what? That doesn't take away your sparkle. It doesn't take away your shine. It just makes the more you shine. It's like I told you about my meditation. When I include everybody in the whole wide world doesn't take anything away from my family. When

Hess:

Right.

Delbert:

praying that big gold light around them, includes, it makes it bigger and brighter.

Hess:

Yeah, I really appreciate that. You send it on up here, 60 miles east

Delbert:

Yeah, it's not hard. It's not even hard. I just, I it east and then I send it and south and then it just expands all over. and it doesn't take long because I think we need to be whatever you believe. We need to be spiritually united. In this world right now,

Hess:

Delbert. Let me say this about that. And that's the name of our podcast. That's what our cousin Dewey said. Let me tell you this about that. So when you spread that, that light and that, that gold light and that protective force. around your family, then a little bit broader, then around me here in Lexington. And then it goes on further to your relatives in Hilton Head and so forth, and then to the whole world. It's going around you also. You're feeling it. You're in it. Delbert, you are in it. You're in that vortex of it right there in the center. So you're giving it to yourself. That's what I'm saying.

Delbert:

Exactly. You said it better than I said it. When you give off good to other people, it doesn't take anything away from you. It makes you stronger. Just remember that you're in that vortex of light, love and protection that you're sending out into the world, right?

Hess:

And like your niece that wants to take over Carole's kitchen. She's a senior in college You're giving off that light to her and she's gravitating. And she says, I can catch the baton. When you get tired I'll be here and this is important to me too. It's catching. It's catching.

Delbert:

And sometimes I didn't see that going on. I didn't see that. knew we were always very close because of the, all the adventures and babysitting we had. But didn't see that budding and blooming and that's so beautiful. And it's something that gave me my bounce back this week. If you want to say, I winter, over it. I don't care how

Hess:

Right.

Delbert:

I'm not participating any longer. That's it. We're over, and it did help me get a bounce back like that dance concert and working and bringing things together and then getting excited about my bingo, open house bingo you're excited about your dinner and all the knowledge that you're going to share. How lucky are those? Students that work in the barn that you share all this knowledge with them. I love that.

Hess:

They're receptive to it, so be receptive to it. Open yourself up to it. As I'm looking outside Delbert, I just thought if I told somebody, gosh, look how the grass is turning green, then maybe that's the way that they'll see it.

Delbert:

Yes,

Hess:

Possibly good.

Delbert:

We just shared our blue sky with everybody. So we'll suggest that we're also sharing the green grass. Yes

Hess:

we are 30 days away from spring.

Delbert:

we're not far. We're not far. is the 20th of April. It's late this year, but hang in there, baby. Spring is a coming. It's all gonna happen.

Hess:

Amen.

Delbert:

quote. It's like a two quote Sunday.

Hess:

Okay. The first quote was Albert Einstein. And he said, let your imagination be the what was that?

Delbert:

is a preview of life's coming attractions. So it's like being at the movies, you're seeing what's coming. And if you imagine it, manifest it.

Hess:

All right. The second quote is.

Delbert:

From Jack Canfield, and it says, Everything you want is out there waiting for you to ask. You want also wants you. But you have to take action to get it.

Hess:

Nice. Thanks Jack Canfield. Thanks Delbert.

Delbert:

Thanks Einstein.

Hess:

you, Podsters

Delbert:

thanks Hess. Get out there and share your knowledge and enjoy this beautiful day.

Hess:

Amen on that. Be sure to like, subscribe, and to share this with somebody. This is our Sunday Morning Conversations, and it helps us. We thought it might help you, too. Peace and love!

Delbert:

Peace and love. We love you friends.